Why Most Relationships Fail Quietly
Think about the last relationship you had that ended because “it just wasn’t the right person.”
There was no cheating, massive fight or a dramatic ending…
Just the slow realization that something wasn’t working.
If you look back honestly, there was probably a breakdown in a few core areas. Not everything, just a few things that mattered more than the rest.
Most relationships don’t end because someone did something terrible. You just see these on social media. The majority end because the fundamentals don’t align.
You can like someone a lot and still know it isn’t going to work.
That’s how most relationships actually fail.
Quietly.
The Lie We Tell Ourselves
When a relationship ends, people usually say something like:
“They just weren’t the right person.”
It sounds clean and simple.
But that sentence usually hides the real reason.
Because most of the time, the person was great.
You had fun together. You got along. You cared about each other.
But the lifestyles didn’t align.
And lifestyle is just another word for Values, which this article will breakdown.
You don’t notice it right away. Early on, attraction and excitement smooth over the differences. You focus on what works and ignore what doesn’t.
Eventually the day-to-day reality catches up and that’s when things get real and could break down if values do not allign.
It Got Simpler For Me
Dating actually got simpler as I got older.
Not easier.
Simpler.
I stopped trying to find someone who matched me on everything and started paying attention to a few things that actually matter.
Everyone should have THREE core values. I will go over my three in this article and you should know yours by the end of this.
If these three don’t align, it doesn’t work.
Everything else is background noise.
1. Health and Wellness
This one ended has ended multiple relationship’s for me.
Not dramatically.
Not in one conversation.
But slowly I realized health and wellness just wasn’t part of her lifestyle.
Now it’s not just going gym and/or eating healthy.
It’s how you take care of yourself.
Your routines.
Your habits.
Your priorities.
I structure my life around staying healthy and active. Training, eating well, sleeping well, it’s not something I squeeze in when I have time. It’s part of how I live. There are reasons deeper to this meaning and how I became to this, but that’s for another time…
When this core value isn’t shared, the difference shows up everywhere.
Weekends look different.
Nights look different.
Energy levels are different.
Priorities are different.
At first it doesn’t seem like a big deal.
You tell yourself it’s just a preference. That it shouldn’t matter that much.
Eventually you realize you’re building two different lives.
Health isn’t a preference for me.
It’s a requirement.
Continue on to read more about the core values and why they are ESSENTIAL to your relationships…
